diff --git a/activity.go b/activity.go
index 078e6bf..ec8d694 100644
--- a/activity.go
+++ b/activity.go
@@ -1702,7 +1702,9 @@ func updateMe(username string) {
 }
 
 func followme(user *WhatAbout, who string, name string, j junk.Junk) {
-	log.Printf("updating honker follow: %s", who)
+	folxid, _ := j.GetString("id")
+
+	log.Printf("updating honker follow: %s %s", who, folxid)
 
 	var x string
 	db := opendatabase()
@@ -1710,19 +1712,21 @@ func followme(user *WhatAbout, who string, name string, j junk.Junk) {
 	err := row.Scan(&x)
 	if err != sql.ErrNoRows {
 		log.Printf("duplicate follow request: %s", who)
-		_, err = stmtUpdateFlavor.Exec("dub", user.ID, name, who, "undub")
+		_, err = stmtUpdateFlavor.Exec("dub", folxid, user.ID, name, who, "undub")
 		if err != nil {
 			log.Printf("error updating honker: %s", err)
 		}
 	} else {
-		stmtSaveDub.Exec(user.ID, name, who, "dub")
+		stmtSaveDub.Exec(user.ID, name, who, "dub", folxid)
 	}
 	go rubadubdub(user, j)
 }
 
 func unfollowme(user *WhatAbout, who string, name string, j junk.Junk) {
-	log.Printf("updating honker undo: %s", who)
-	_, err := stmtUpdateFlavor.Exec("undub", user.ID, name, who, "dub")
+	folxid, _ := j.GetString("id")
+
+	log.Printf("updating honker undo: %s %s", who, folxid)
+	_, err := stmtUpdateFlavor.Exec("undub", folxid, user.ID, name, who, "dub")
 	if err != nil {
 		log.Printf("error updating honker: %s", err)
 		return
@@ -1772,16 +1776,16 @@ func followyou2(user *WhatAbout, j junk.Junk) {
 	who, _ := j.GetString("actor")
 
 	log.Printf("updating honker accept: %s", who)
-	var name string
 	db := opendatabase()
-	row := db.QueryRow("select name from honkers where userid = ? and xid = ? and flavor in ('presub')",
+	row := db.QueryRow("select name, folxid from honkers where userid = ? and xid = ? and flavor in ('presub')",
 		user.ID, who)
-	err := row.Scan(&name)
+	var name, folxid string
+	err := row.Scan(&name, &folxid)
 	if err != nil {
 		log.Printf("can't get honker name: %s", err)
 		return
 	}
-	_, err = stmtUpdateFlavor.Exec("sub", user.ID, name, who, "presub")
+	_, err = stmtUpdateFlavor.Exec("sub", folxid, user.ID, name, who, "presub")
 	if err != nil {
 		log.Printf("error updating honker: %s", err)
 		return
diff --git a/database.go b/database.go
index 2b0d337..8570213 100644
--- a/database.go
+++ b/database.go
@@ -234,7 +234,7 @@ func gethonksforme(userid int64, wanted int64) []*Honk {
 }
 func gethonksfromlongago(userid int64, wanted int64) []*Honk {
 	now := time.Now().UTC()
-	now = time.Date(now.Year() - 1, now.Month(), now.Day(), now.Hour(), now.Minute(),
+	now = time.Date(now.Year()-1, now.Month(), now.Day(), now.Hour(), now.Minute(),
 		now.Second(), 0, now.Location())
 	dt1 := now.Add(-36 * time.Hour).Format(dbtimeformat)
 	dt2 := now.Add(12 * time.Hour).Format(dbtimeformat)
@@ -883,7 +883,7 @@ func preparetodie(db *sql.DB, s string) *sql.Stmt {
 func prepareStatements(db *sql.DB) {
 	stmtHonkers = preparetodie(db, "select honkerid, userid, name, xid, flavor, combos, meta from honkers where userid = ? and (flavor = 'presub' or flavor = 'sub' or flavor = 'peep' or flavor = 'unsub') order by name")
 	stmtSaveHonker = preparetodie(db, "insert into honkers (userid, name, xid, flavor, combos, owner, meta, folxid) values (?, ?, ?, ?, ?, ?, ?, '')")
-	stmtUpdateFlavor = preparetodie(db, "update honkers set flavor = ? where userid = ? and name = ? and xid = ? and flavor = ?")
+	stmtUpdateFlavor = preparetodie(db, "update honkers set flavor = ?, folxid = ? where userid = ? and name = ? and xid = ? and flavor = ?")
 	stmtUpdateHonker = preparetodie(db, "update honkers set name = ?, combos = ?, meta = ? where honkerid = ? and userid = ?")
 	stmtOneHonker = preparetodie(db, "select xid from honkers where name = ? and userid = ?")
 	stmtDubbers = preparetodie(db, "select honkerid, userid, name, xid, flavor from honkers where userid = ? and flavor = 'dub'")
@@ -929,7 +929,7 @@ func prepareStatements(db *sql.DB) {
 	stmtFindFile = preparetodie(db, "select fileid, xid from filemeta where url = ? and local = 1")
 	stmtUserByName = preparetodie(db, "select userid, username, displayname, about, pubkey, seckey, options from users where username = ? and userid > 0")
 	stmtUserByNumber = preparetodie(db, "select userid, username, displayname, about, pubkey, seckey, options from users where userid = ?")
-	stmtSaveDub = preparetodie(db, "insert into honkers (userid, name, xid, flavor, combos, owner, meta, folxid) values (?, ?, ?, ?, '', '', '', '')")
+	stmtSaveDub = preparetodie(db, "insert into honkers (userid, name, xid, flavor, combos, owner, meta, folxid) values (?, ?, ?, ?, '', '', '', ?)")
 	stmtAddDoover = preparetodie(db, "insert into doovers (dt, tries, userid, rcpt, msg) values (?, ?, ?, ?, ?)")
 	stmtGetDoovers = preparetodie(db, "select dooverid, dt from doovers")
 	stmtLoadDoover = preparetodie(db, "select tries, userid, rcpt, msg from doovers where dooverid = ?")
diff --git a/upgradedb.go b/upgradedb.go
index b98a239..e5e37c5 100644
--- a/upgradedb.go
+++ b/upgradedb.go
@@ -23,7 +23,7 @@ import (
 	"time"
 )
 
-var myVersion = 38
+var myVersion = 39
 
 type dbexecer interface {
 	Exec(query string, args ...interface{}) (sql.Result, error)
@@ -164,6 +164,10 @@ func upgradedb() {
 		doordie(db, "update config set value = 38 where key = 'dbversion'")
 		fallthrough
 	case 38:
+		doordie(db, "update honkers set folxid = abs(random())")
+		doordie(db, "update config set value = 39 where key = 'dbversion'")
+		fallthrough
+	case 39:
 
 	default:
 		log.Fatalf("can't upgrade unknown version %d", dbversion)